If you’ve attended any weddings as a guest, have you happened to see an evening party that doesn’t take off, a desolately empty runway an evening party with very high expectations left unexpected?

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How many times over the years have we happened to be in locations hosting 2 or more weddings at the same time.
This is not a solution we are excited about for many reasons, but we are aware that for the bride and groom there is, economically speaking, a big difference in having an exclusive location or vice versa sharing it with other couples, and in the latter case the modus operandi of some musicians/djs has often left us literally dumbfounded.

Let us start by saying that any “music project” and I repeat “music project” should be built together with the bride and groom and should be like a dress that slips perfectly when worn.
There should be no “APERITIVO” folders that the DJ on duty uses in automatic playlists at every wedding; different locations, different guests, different brides and grooms require different music sets.

The mood of the wedding then, must be enhanced and amplified by the music, which must create a common thread among the different musical situations that evolve throughout the day until the evening party; Instead, it often happens that the music is completely detached from the mood of the wedding, the context chosen by the bride and groom, and the bride and groom’s own taste.

This happens when the bride and groom, sometimes out of short time, sometimes out of simplicity or sometimes out of too much confidence, give the musician/DJ carte blanche on the choice of music for their wedding and this can turn out to be a huge mistake!

When the bride and groom come to us, after a specialized consultation and the identification of the service best suited to their needs, a path made up of several appointments with the chosen musician/DJ begins to structure what will then be the wedding’s musical set list. These are appointments designed to outline the tastes of the bride and groom, the most beloved songs and authors that have characterized a special moment in their lives; But it is not a static “playlist” but one that is constantly being updated since in the months leading up to the wedding the bride and groom will surely happen while at work, in the car or at the gym to hear a song they forgot to include in the list sent to the DJ, or a song they cared so much about that they did not remember.
Or it may happen that your favorite artist launches his or her latest hit, and you won’t want to not plug it in will you? In short, the playlist you build with the DJ can be subject to additions and changes up to the day before the wedding, and it’s nice that this is the case. Of course it often turns out to be easier to list all those songs, singers or genres of music that you just don’t like, but it may turn out to be a rather superficial job.

As written above the choice of professional is crucial to the success of your wedding, but pay close attention to whom you put your trust because for example the good DJ heard at that party or venue may not necessarily be suitable for your wedding; A whole day listening exclusively to 90s music would put even Gigi D’Agostino to the test.
At least 5 different music sets should be prepared in each wedding, one for each stage of the day, which should create a continuity effect respecting the mood of the wedding and at the same time create a musical crescendo until the evening party.

How many music sets did your musician/DJ come up with! How did you structure them!

Another reason why you should not give carte blanche to the musician/DJ on duty is because of the possibility of the latter offering the “classic” wedding songs, that is, all those songs that are easily associated with the party but may not be suitable or appropriate for your wedding for example:

1. Twist and 60s tunes

Great classics, from Rocky Robert and Ray Charles via Yellow Flag or The Watusis that are now old and absolutely out of fashion unless your wedding is shabby chic in style. Certainly older people will appreciate them, but at the same time they can prove to be exceptional runway emptyers.
2. Disco Samba

The cult New Year’s Eve midnight song that involves all the guests in the classic toy train, but that doesn’t mean it’s also suitable for your wedding that you may be looking for a refined and elegant evening party.
3. Play Jouer, Asereje. The Pious Chick

These and many others are excellent songs to offer at a … “children’s birthday party,” less suitable for a wedding. To lapse into tawdry takes little, and to return to having a full runway after guests have slipped away is really difficult.
4. Tecno-House

Although there are some weddings where impactful genres are requested see Techno or House music, the choice of music genre that the DJ proposes should always be aimed at mass involvement at the expense of satisfying the few. Leaving carte blanche to the DJ can not only empty the dance floor but even make guests leave the wedding prematurely annoyed or deafened by the proposed genre.

5. General group dances

Group dances can sometimes prove to be the best way to get the party going, to fill the floor, to entice guests to dance but at the same time they can prove to be a double-edged sword. Sometimes the DJ just puts on the different group dances, sometimes an entertainer teaches you the steps and then gets everyone dancing together but the key thing to understand is the thermometer of the dance floor. If the floor is already full and people are having a good time, stopping them to teach them a group dance may drive guests away, or it may happen that they do not go along with the entertainer’s directions by continuing to dance as they prefer or worse generalized protests may be raised with a not-so-subtle invitation to the DJ to return to previous genres.

That said.

Now that you have the knowledge of how important it is not to leave carte blanche to the musician/DJ, visit our website and go to the contact page to book a specialized consultation with our Paul and figure out how to make your big dream come true.

Remember that

“Marriage is a live movie. You can’t go wrong because you can’t buy a memory.”

We always say this to all our wedding couples.
A few simple tips combined with a dash of common sense in choosing a musician not just based on price will make your wedding a memorable event.

I am Paolo Furlan the first Wedding Music Planner in Veneto and founder of the Wedding Symphony music agency specializing in music for civil or religious ceremonies and music and entertainment for wedding receptions.

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